There are No Supermoms

I’m so excited that Deana asked me to guest blog here at The Frugal Homeschooling Mom. As a mom of two grown children I can honestly say that I admire anyone who stays home and homeschools. It isn’t something that I did and although some parents did homeschool “back in the day” it is much more common now than it was when my children were in school. While I’m not familiar with homeschooling I am familiar with the sacrifices it takes to keep a family on the straight and narrow.

We did it all. AWANA, children’s choirs at church, baseball, (Summer, Fall and traveling) basketball, (school, rec league, traveling, Middle School, High School, College and Overseas) Football, Track, Gymnastics, Book Publishing, piano and voice. My husband was a Deacon and Sunday School teacher, served as a Trustee and on the Missions Committee. We worked with the Teens and Youth Choirs, went on Missions trips. I sang in the Choir, the Praise Team, worked with the Special Needs Ministry, taught Sunday School, worked in the Nursery, and played keyboard in the Orchestra. 
While I’m sure we never perfected any of these, we sure did try. One might even say that we burned the candle at both ends. We did all of this while we both worked. My husband worked full time and most of those weeks overtime and occasionally two jobs. I worked around 32 hours a week. There were many nights in those early years when we would get home, eat dinner and fall into bed and get right back up the next morning and start it all over again.

Now that I’m on the other side of “all that” I would say to you to try and balance without trying to be Supermom. There are no Supermoms. Pinterest, blogs and sometimes our friends make it look like there are, but no one can do it all. Don’t put too many expectations on yourself. Keep pressing on. You’re doing great. Your children need YOU.

I remember once when my son was very sick and his fever was very high. He only wanted me to hold him. The laundry was piled high. The dishes were dirty in the sink. I was on the phone with my mom and I told her that I couldn’t get anything done. She said to me, “Hold him now, the laundry and dirty dishes will wait. He will not always want you to hold him.” It wasn’t long after that conversation that I saw a plaque at a craft fair and it said:

“Cleaning and scrubbing can wait ‘til tomorrow
For babies grow up we’ve learned to our sorrow.
So hush down cobwebs and dust go to sleep,
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.”

I bought that plaque that day and have kept it to this day and hope to pass it on to my children as they start their families. So when you have a never ending “to do list” and a child that just needs “you” give yourself a break. Just be mom.

One thing that helped me focus our family was having a family verse. Our verse is Jeremiah 33:3, “Call unto me and I will show thee great and mighty things which thou knowest not.” We called this “God’s telephone number.” This verse showed up in lunch bags, written in the bill of baseball caps, tucked in basketball shoes, track shoes, on the dashboard of cars, etc. Post it on your fridge or on your family chalkboard. Recite it to each other every day. Mom, stay the course. Being a mother is, in my opinion, one of the highest callings in the land. Wake with renewed strength each day. Remember that you get fresh do-overs every day and that His mercies are new every morning.

Felicia (Fifi), of Average Day on Everidge, is married to James, the first and only man she ever fell in love with, and they have two children, Kristen and Bradley. Bradley is married to their daughter-in-love, Kayla. Felicia began blogging two years ago at the urging of her husband and children. She loves to encourage others by sharing the love of Jesus.

When Hope Is Deferred

This afternoon I looked up in the sky, noticing the wind and the clouds moving quickly above me. The warmth of the sun was shining down on me, but soon (when the clouds covered the sun) it became noticeably darker and cooler all around me.

As I watched the clouds cover the sun and cause darkness and coldness all around me, this seemed to be a perfect comparison to how I have been feeling lately. I have been recovering from a physical illness since mid-September, and I have felt discouragement and even depression try to settle on me as my daily life and routine has changed while my body heals. Even writing has been difficult, and writing is normally as easy as breathing for me.

Proverbs 13:22 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life” (NIV).

I feel like I am in a season with clouds hiding the warmth of the sun from me, but God encouraged me today with this simple analogy as I sat there a little longer. I was able to watch the clouds break up, and the bright sun’s warmth covered me once again.

The warmth of the sun reminded me that God is still here. (The sun was there all along. It was only hidden behind the clouds.) God knows where I am, and He hasn’t forgotten me in this cloud-covered time of healing I have found myself in. I don’t know when it will happen, or what it will look like, but I know one day the clouds will clear and the warm sun will be shining down on me again.

Do you have hope that has been deferred in any area of your life?

Maybe you are in a season like I am, where it seems as if the warmth of the sun has been hidden from you. This can cause great discouragement and lead you to wonder if your situation will ever change. Don’t become lost in the darkness around you. The Lord is near you, and He is there to guide you and walk with you during this trial in your life. Maybe it has been so dark around you that you can’t see God at all. Pray something simple like this, and I believe He will answer you:

“Father God, I am weary and discouraged. The darkness around me feels so consuming that I cannot even see You anymore. Please show me where You are in all of this, and I will follow You. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.”

Amy Riordan is a Christian writer and speaker with a desire to see women’s hearts healed and set free. Her passion is to inspire others to embrace who they were created and redeemed to be. Amy lives in PA with her husband and two children. She candidly shares her story on her blog, Walking in Freedom encouraging women to pursue an intimate relationship with Jesus, the only One who can satisfy their deep longings for intimacy and connection.

Non-Food Ideas for Birthday Parties

Perfect for moms planning parties for children with food allergies, these non-food ideas will keep your children safe AND perfectly spoiled on their special day!

I love these ideas, since my own child, Laynie, age 9, has a life-threatening allergy to peanuts. She was diagnosed at 14 months when I first introduced peanut butter and she broke out in hives from head to toe. Since then, she has had two cases of anaphylaxis, and one other serious reaction, and innumerable cases of hives.

Jennifer Ladewig, from Homeschool Happenings, says, “I am a homeschooling mom of six. I have three children with varying degrees of food allergies, ranging from allergies to a couple of food to a kiddo that can eat nothing. I set out to make Birthday Cakes extra special, even for the ones that cannot eat them.”

She has some brilliant ideas for moms like me! Go visit her blog and follow her on Pinterest for more inspiration.